Say what?

We teach people how to treat us the way that they do. Don't believe me? Think about it. DO you positively or negatively reward someone for their behavior?
Example #1... Booty calls... any time that you ALLOW someone to call you after let's be conservative and say 10 pm, they will only call you at those times, because you answer it. You set the trend. If he or she only texts you when they are drunk, or at late night hours, and you respond, you are allowing that to become a pattern. If you don't answer, they won't continue to do it. Try it some time.
Example #2... Bossman...You have a schedule, your time is precious or money, which ever way that you want to look at it. Your boss throws you a curve ball and says that they need you to do something on a day that you had not planned to work, had asked for it off, double checked, gotten it approved... The day before that day, they say that there is a meeting that you have to attend... DO you do it? I thought you said that your time was precious? Why are you letting your boss disrespect your time like that? Oh, the economy is bad and you don't want to rock the boat? I hear you, now grow a pair and do what you were taking the time off to do.
Example #3...friendship...Are you that friend that is so understanding that people seem to break plans with you because something just came up and they KNEW that you would understand? If you did that to them would they be understanding? No, they wouldn't. They would get mad at you because you didn't do what you said you would.
When you say that you are going to do something, do it. Now, I understand that things happen, and sometimes for a really good reason. I swear for the last few days all I wanted to do was come home and chill and then clean my house...But something seems to happen where I CHOOSE to do that instead of staying home and cleaning my rugs, vacuuming, cleaning the bathroom...etc... But I don't care if my house is immaculate. Not many people even know where I live, so I'm not expecting company anyway... My point is that if you allow behavior to continue, it will. If you allow that guy to ignore you then show up when he feels like it, it will continue to happen, because you have let it continue to happen. Treat people the way that you want to be treated, and you will see things change. And some day I will be home long enough to clean, and invite you over so that you can see my clean apartment... yeah, we all have dreams don't we?