To be or not to be...Single

After speaking with a few of my lovely single lady friends (and family), I'm wondering what in the world is happening? These are beautiful women, inside AND out, and actually WANT to be in relationships but... Here's the thing, I'm pretty sure that the guys they dream about are either gay, or already taken... not really. I have plenty of single, good looking, male friends too...
I've already written about some of my first dates that went wrong, but at least I have tried to meet guys. So what really is the issue here? I'm thinking there are a couple of angles.
1) My friend tells me about this GORGEOUS friend of hers that actually changes, and does so with success, a guy to what she wants. She tells him up front that he MUST go to the gym 3 times a week, dresses him, etc.. Then when he's just what she wanted, she gets bored. This girl obviously wants the challenge and then looks for a new guy to change. But hey, she's beautifying the world, one guy at a time. I wonder if they stay that way after she breaks their heart?
I don't want to change anyone. Neither do most of my single friends (maybe change their status to "in a relationship", but that's it). I hear often about these urban myth females that after a guy meets THIS ONE girl, he stops cheating, drinking, doing drugs, whatever the guy had been doing forever... I think this is a myth and it needs to be busted on myth busters. But I can tell you now, that nobody is going to change unless they want to, no matter what you do or say.

2) It seems to me that guys don't want a commitment. There, I've said it. I remember last year "dating" a guy much younger than myself (I don't think that was the problem) and when a friend of his asked if I was seeing someone, I said yes, your friend... He said that we weren't "dating" and that he wasn't ready to be "taken off the market". So play on playa! See you later! As for other guys? well, they are just too "busy" with work, or life to get involved for more than one night here or there. To quote NSYNC- Bye Bye Bye ♫

3) We are just too nice. Too nice to ask someone out- I mean think of the humiliation if they said no! LOL Too nice to say yes to someone that might be great for us... Now hold on a minute. I know these women(and guys), one said she'd rather have a "bald fat guy" because he's not going anywhere. See, not picky., too nice.
Personally, I'm not a height-ist, ageist, or racist. I don't care if you are bald, fat, skinny, tattooed, clean shaven, scruffy, republican, democrat, atheist, Catholic, Jewish, Muslim, Buddhist, or what have you. As long as you like who you are, like me, and treat me well. I would prefer, for myself, that you have a job or passion that you are following... And a good all around human being. I'd really prefer if you didn't have any addictions. Is that too much to ask for? I'm not longing for Prince Charming to ride up on his noble steed and whisk me away to a perfect life in a dark, damp, castle. I didn't even look at pictures of the recent "Royal Wedding".

But where to meet these people? I think THAT is the real key...

I know plenty of people that have met and married or are currently in a relationship with someone they met online. But what if you would rather just walk into Starbucks or Trader Joe's and see him/her and keep going back to see if they make a move. Oh, yes, that could be considered "stalking". I forgot.
I think that the trick is to take a chance. If you like someone, ask them out, or you might not ever know what could actually happen...
Of course, that's just my opinion. And I'm not really looking. I'm one of those too busy with life people. O.K., not really...I'm not really interested in a relationship right now. HOWEVER, if you like someone why not go for it? Take a risk and ask them out? That's the only way you are going to figure it out. SO go ahead and do it. Today! What are you waiting for Ladies? And guys, do the same!  Or keep wondering to be or not to be, single forever...